2 simple fears that stop your success

Posted by Ben Lumley on Jul 28, 2010 in Dealing with Problems, Success | 12 comments

photo credit: Courtney Carmody // OpenEyesPhoto

“The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure.” Sven Goran Eriksson

As Marianne Williamson said of our deepest fears, "your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do." Yet we do shrink. We do hide ourselves because of our fears. We do hold ourselves back when we should step forward. But why?

Marianne said that our deepest fear is that we're powerful beyond measure. She was right. However, I believe there are two lesser fears that stop most people in their tracks and greatly hamper their success.

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3 great ways to spot if you’re stuck in the race of life

Posted by Ben Lumley on Jul 26, 2010 in Dealing with Problems, Motivation | 16 comments

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It's often the way in life that when everything seems to be getting busier and busier around you, the comfortable, controlled way you're used to living has to be put to one side while you keep up. You get caught in the race of life and struggle to keep pace with the leaders.

We all get like this from time to time and often without realising why. It happened to me recently and even though I knew it was coming (due to my schedule at work) I still found myself running to keep up rather than growing and developing.

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Friday’s Homework – It’s all in the video

Posted by Ben Lumley on Jul 23, 2010 in Dealing with Problems, Goals, Motivation, Productivity, Young People | 4 comments

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Before I crack on with some great new posts next week, I wanted to follow on from the review of some of my favourite posts from Wednesday and focus today on the video posts that I have created for 6Aliens and other blogs on a variety of different subjects. I really like doing videos because its more aligned with my speaking and training. I don't feel I'm quite fully myself on video yet but I know that will become easier in time. It's a bit different for me to be in front of the laptop rather than a room full of people but hopefully you have gained something from seeing them.

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A Review of 6aliens.com – The #7links Challenge

Posted by Ben Lumley on Jul 21, 2010 in Dealing with Problems, Goals, Motivation, Productivity | 12 comments

Some readers may have seen the 7 links challenge floating around the blogosphere in recent days. If you've not heard of it, the 7 links challenge is the brain child of ProBlogger's Darren Rowse with the aim

to create a list post that highlights some of the posts in your archives to new readers (a sneeze page), that links out to another blog and that hopefully is a little fun (and not too much work) to do.

Seeing as I've not had a review post on 6aliens.com for a while, I thought this would be a great way of sharing some of my favourite posts that you might have missed over the last 8 months. I hope you enjoy this reflective look back over the archives as much as I have.

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How to FACE a Particularly Bad Day

Posted by Ben Lumley on Jul 19, 2010 in Dealing with Problems, Think Differently | 10 comments

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Today's post is written by Julius Charles Serrano. Julius is the research director of Even Grounds, Accessibility Consulting. Find out more at www.evengrounds.com. He has written over a hundred articles about web accessibility and assistive technologies for persons with disabilities as well as conducting web accessibility seminars in a number of Asian countries. He is also a self-proclaimed gothic subculture and metal music enthusiast.

You get out of bed and minutes later, the first annoyance hits you. Then one by one your problems start piling up. Now you're not even halfway through the day but you already wish you didn't get out of bed at all.

We've all had our share of these kinds of day and I'm sure you'd agree that it is neither easy nor pleasant. But don't let the day drag you down. There are a few things you can do to deal with it

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Work harder on yourself than you do on your job

Posted by Ben Lumley on Jul 14, 2010 in Dealing with Problems, Motivation, Success, Think Differently | 6 comments

photo credit: The Welsh Poppy

Work harder on yourself than you do on your job ~ Jim Rohn

So I'm sat here after what feels like a really unpleasant few weeks. Nothing particularly bad has happened, just lots of little things building up and gaining momentum that have made me feel like I'm dragging a weight behind me that I can't shake. Coupled to that has been the feeling that something wasn't right, like I was a bit lost and I could quite figure out why. Then the penny dropped. I'd stopped working on me. And instantly the weight and feeling was gone.

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